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GrayGay
Dating Site Reviews and Recommendations
We have rated and reviewed
the major dating sites for gay seniors and admirers. That's
not to say that you can't find people through other dating
sites but you do increase the odds of doing so by using
the larger databases or specialist sites for seniors and
admirers. The larger sites charge around $20 per month
for full membership (and some much more!) so knowing
where to look can save you time and money. The availability
of low-cost dating scripts has meant that almost anyone
can start a dating site but as the scripts are not usually
gay orientated (or support intergenerational relationships)
the facilites are poor without substantial modification.
The site rating is based
on their ease of use, number of profiles, matching facility,
membership cost per user, security and features - if you
disagree with the rating or want to add your own review
click here.
We have noticed that Caffmos,
69Daddies,
and Findgaydad
allow search engines to index their contact database.
This means that if someone searches on your nickname or
a specific phrase in your profile, they could find your
details (including your sexual tastes) without being a
member of the site concerned - this includes your employer
or partner!
So don't use anything in
your description or user ID that could also be used to
identify you if you are at all worried about privacy.
Newbies start here
If you
are new to online dating, please read the SafeSurfing
Guide to online dating which includes invaluable
advice to ensure your success, safety and privacy. Or
browse the Dating Advice books.
You might also be interested in the review
of chat and video chat systems.
Categories
General - Market leading dating
sites for gay and straight advertisers
Gay Senior/Admirer - Specialist dating for mature
gay men and admirers
Gay All Ages - Gay sites with a complete range of
ages
Seniors - Specialist seniors dating
sites
Couples - enables couples
to meet others for friendship or dating
Feature Comparison Table
For a comparison table of features of the major dating
sites for older gay men and admirers, click here
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(please send table updates/corrections to info@graygay.com)
Summary of Ratings
Younger for Older
If you're just looking for sex contacts, then we recommend
Gay.com (USA), Gaydar
(non-USA) and OutPersonals. For relationships
we recommend Match.com, and Yahoo.com
(USA). From the specialist sites we recommend for relationships
CAFFMOS (UK) and Apollo
Network for sex we recommend Silverdaddies.
Older for Younger
Age matching has a higher importance when for mature
men looking for younger. For sex contacts we recommend
Gaydar. For relationships, Match.com
and Yahoo.com (USA) general sites
and from the specialists we recommend CAFFMOS (UK) Silverdaddies (Everywhere)
as they have the largest databases.
Older for Older
For mature men looking for their peers, age matching
is of the highest importance. Although it dos depend on
users filling in their profile properly. So from the non-specialist
sites we can only recommend Gaydar
for it's age matching search. For relationships, Match.com
and Yahoo.com general sites and from
the specialists we recommend Daddyscape,
CAFFMOS , Apollo
Network and Silverdaddies
as they all offer age matching.
What to look for on
a dating site
Free Trial
Most paid-for sites offer a free trial or low cost period
which gives you an opportunity to find out if it offers
what you are looking for.
Automatic renewal
Be aware that many of the big dating sites that
require paid membership will renew membership automatically
by billing your credit card. You have to change your Account
Profile to turn this "feature" off if you don't want to
renew automatically.
Age Matching
An important feature, particularly for older people looking
for partners, as it matches your age with the age requirements
of advertisers. For example, if you are aged 70 and search
for 20-40yo men you want to only see a list of those who
may be interested in someone of your age and not the complete
list.
Profile Matching
This facility matches your requirements with the requirements
of the advertiser in a search, which enables you to restrict
your results only to those who have all the features you
want. They often indicate the closeness of your match
to them and vice versa.
Filtered Email Updates
Some sites allow you to receive updates to your search
criteria by email with brief details and then you can
connect to the site to see the complete profile but you
often have to be a full member to be able to contact them..
Blocking
Most sites have a blocking feature which enables you
to block messages from unwanted admirers
Instant Messaging &
Email
Some sites have a pop-up instant messaging facility
which enables you to send a short private message to other
users. Most of the better sites also hide the real email
address of the individual and will forward emails to the
advertiser. In addition, many will send an email notification
that you have received a message.
Security
Avoid sites that expose your details on a basic
web page with no search facility. Apart from making
your
details indexed by search engines, your email address
can be picked up by spammers. If you don't have to
fill
in a profile form or a search form, generally we
would suggest the site is insecure and should be avoided.
Privacy
If you are concerned
that others may find your profile that you don't
want to, see the SafeSurfing
Guide for
privacy advice and tips.
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 NiceDaddies
Dating site
with extensive facilites and 15.6K personal ads (02/2007).
Gallieries, video clips, video messages, IM & chat. Also
includes hot or not photo rating, and public and private
photo galleries. Search facilty (called Browse) allows fairly
simple search proximity to location in USA and travel itineraries.
Date matching rates your match to the advertisers requirements
and vice versa. |
| General Dating Sites |
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 Match.com 
The biggest dating site on the Internet with 8M plus members (2006).
It has all the features that a good
personal ad service must provide to get our highest recommendation.
You can sign up for free, post your
profile and search for potential matches within 5 minutes of registering.
Their two-way matching service allows profile preferences to be matched
in searches.
They offer a completely anonymous system
for contacting people you are interested in and a blocking feature
to prevent those that you are not interested in from contacting you
or even seeing your profile.
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 Yahoo
Dating
Second-largest dating database with
over 3M users. Regions covered include USA, UK, France, Germany, Australia & NZ,
China , Hong Kong, Taiwan, and Brazil.
You don't have
to be a Yahoo member to browse the ads, but
you must join Yahoo to place an ad. A paid
subscription is required to be able to contact
other advertisers. Subscribers can use the
enhanced ad features which allows up to 5 pictures
and a more detailed description. Subscriber
ads are placed at the top of the list when
a search is done.
Does not allow
any adult content and the profiles are very
detailed although I would say they are slanted
towards heterosexuals (e.g. Do you want children?).
Search criteria are also very detailed and
they offer extensive age and profile matching.
You can receive
weekly or daily emails with profiles that match
your criteria (including thumbnail pics) and
if you have Yahoo Messenger, you can arrange
to receive an alert when you receive a message
in your personal mailbox.
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| General Gay
Personals |
 Gay.com
Claims 3M dating ads and divides
it's profiles into:
Basic: gender, age, location etc.
Interests: Allows you to reveal more information
about the types of things that interest you.
Adult: questions specific to your sexual interests. You can control
who sees your Adult profile with the privacy options.
Gay.com dating
offer Adult (sex-orientated) or Relationship
searches but neither offer age-matching. There
is no profile matching facility although filtered
regular emails are an option.
All adult photos are now hidden
unless you take out Premium membership costing
between $9.95 for one week or $89.95 for one
year.
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GayAddress.com  This
site has 30,000 personal ads and many of these are older/younger related
since it is linked with PlayDad.com (an
adult senior pay site). There are 30,000+ profiles (09/2003) and ad
placement is free. A profile is required to search and standard users
can search by location and age. Gold Membership costs $12.95/month
and allows profile sort, only guys with pictures, keyword and username
search, unlimited search results and pics.
The profile information required has many more details (height, weight,
body type, hair etc.) that you can't search on and there is no profile
or age matching. I would have given them a higher rating because of the
number of contacts but the poor search facilities and lack of age matching
make it harder to find what you want. |
Gaydar
Gaydar is probably best know in
the UK and Australia and the accent is definitely on sex as it promises "what
you want, when you want it".
Profiles are free to upload but free
access gives limited messaging, email and searching.
Gold membership adds increased number
of viewable profiles, messaging, emails saved, photo album, friends
online notification, thumbnails online listing, filtered email. Platinum
membership adds all Gold features plus unlimited viewable profiles,
unlimited and emails, save 600 messages, add photos to your photo
album for other Platinum members, 24 hour message history.
Searches have an Age Filter to match
age requirements, even at basic membership level, but the results
are shown as a list without thumbnail photos, making searching through
the list a question of clicking on each one which can be laborious.
Thumbnails Online offered with Gold
or Platinum membership does allow you to apply your search criteria
and see thumbnail photos of those online who meet it and you can
then send an online message.
Also have extended chat-rooms and their
mature men's forum is shown as 50+.
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G-Rated
Guys 
For responsible gay male relationships
and friendships. G-rated provides a community of individuals and couples
who believe in committed, long term, monogamous relationships or younger
people who are on their way to forming that belief.
However, the site is now part
of the TangoWire network so while the database
may be larger the search facilities are fewer.
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Guys4Men.com 
Free site with over 30,000 profiles
of which 3,900 are aged over 50. Very detailed profiles provide excellent
matching service including age matching.
Free to post a
profile and free to use all database searches
and view unlimited profiles and all members
pictures. It's free to message unlimited guys
too.
If you contribute
money or refer new members you receive preferential
placement in the search results and other benefits.
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 OutPersonals 
Part of the Adultfriendfinder group,
Outpersonals boast over 500,000 gay men and is very sexually orientated
- at least judging by the photos.
Although their
Free Membership allows you to post a profile
you can only respond to advertisers more than
once every 24hrs if you take out a membership.
Silver membership
allows you to view photos, send unlimited emails
and gives enhanced searching facilities.
Gold provides
premium listing of your ad, filtered email,
priority ad listings and top search facilities.
No profile matching
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PlanetOut
Has around 350,000 profiles listed
in the dating section. Anyone can create an extensive profile with pictures
at no charge, but to contact someone, you must join and pay a nominal
monthly fee.
It is part of
the Planetoutpartners Inc group which includes
gay.com and the Outandabout.com travel zine
- although the dating service on Planet-out
tends to be less sexually charged than gay.com
PersonalsPlus
is the premium version of dating which offers
Search Agents that do the work for you, Bookmarking
and Blocking of profiles, Multiple Photos in
your profile, and more. Only paid subscribers
to PersonalsPlus can save searches and reply
to members who show up in their ad searches.
No profile matching
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| Gay Senior/Admirer Specialist
dating |
69daddies.com
Free site boasts over 1000 profiles (02/2007) but there
do seem to be many scammers from Africa amongst them. Ads
are free to place although the repetitive ads from females
that appear on the left margin are a little off putting.
Searching ads is also free
and can be restricted by location, age, keyword and photo,
although there is no age matching.
Additional features include
downloadable daddy video clips ($5 each), video chat and
email notification of matches.
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Apollo Network
Has 194 senior/admirer profiles. Ads are free to place but
if you want to exceed the limit of 250 character or add
a photo you are asked to make a minimum $25 donation.
Searching ads is also free and can be
restricted by location, age, keyword and photo, including
age matching
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Benboxer
Has 4000+ profiles (03/2007) of whom 34% are aged over 50,
and 16% are older for older. Free to join and create a profile
with pictures and free to search and contact advertisers.
Paid membership allows access to enhanced features such
as photo galleries and matching. Profile categories include
older for younger, younger for older and older for older.
Additional content includes
pictorials, stories, forum, chat, and a mailing list that
allows pictures.
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CAFFMOS (Contacts and Friendship For
Men Over Sixty) UK and US Contact ads for mature men and
admirers. Also have off-line contact magazine and regional
groups in the UK.
Have 20,000+ contacts (02/207) in of which 60% are under
50. 8K+ contacts are UK-based and 6K+ from the USA.
Bronze members are restricted to Basic searches and can
view up to 8 profiles and initiate 3 messages within a 24
hour period.
Gold membership (InterGold $15.00 for
12 Months Membership or UKGold £10.00 for 12 Months
Membership) provides advanced searching and matching facilities.
Picture Albums, WebPage, Journals, Advance Search, Quick
match, "Who's ON" with Unlimited Messaging.
Also offer themed galleries, resort reviews
& photo rating.
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| Chiron
Rising Online
Dating service
has 650+ profiles (03/2007) and is based on an off-the-shelf
script, with some modification, but with no age matching
and is still slanted towards heterosexul relationships.
Also has galleries and "daddy videos" on DVD. |
Daddy
Depot 
Another dating site for older/younger
men using one of the dating scripts with some customisation
for the purpose. Has 3900+ profiles (03/2007). |
| Daddyscape
A dating site for older/younger that was great when it
launched and then suffered from both Hurricane Katrina
and a hacking attack. Now it's back with 14,000 members,
28% aged over 50 (02/2007). Search allows age matching.
Premium features available from US$8.95 per month. Promises
new interface soon. |
 Daddyhunt.com
Dating site for older/younger men offering matching
service with the accent on sex. Has 200,000 profiles which
are free to place (Although many only have one line of text
and no photo). Over 5000 daddies and admirers online at peak times. Premium membership gives additional & adult photos, message receipt, message save and advanced search. No age matching but users are self-selecting into "Daddy" and "Hunter" categories. However at least 500 contacts aged over 50 are in the "Hunter" category and many of them are looking for younger men. |
|  Daddylover.com
Site provides a mixture of dating, galleries and original
streaming video - some of which requires subscription
to access.
Dating is free and includes detailed profiles and match
facility on emails (but no age matching) with 20,600 profiles
(06/2005) of which only 4300 are aged over 50.
Galleries are also free and images are taken from those
uploaded to profiles and from the internet.
Video content requires subscription to access.
Standard Members register for free and may create a personal
profile. They can receive unlimited mail from other members,
but can only send two emails a day. Premium membership
(from $5 per month) provides enhanced dating features
and unlimited mails. All Access membership (from $15.00
per month) allows access to original video content.
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EuroGay Seniors
A laudible ideal to create an online community for European
GLBT seniors and admirers, but the proof is in the execution
and an off-the-shelf dating script with minimal modification,
poor graphics and some poor English may not be enough. Features
include profiles with galleries and audio/video, personal
weblogs and friends-lists, Audio/video chat, IM and recorder,
newsletter. 130 profiles (09/2006) |
FindGayDad (was GayDadSon)
Offers offering dating ads with thumbnail searches, currently
has 1400 profiles of which 35% are aged over 50. Profile
and searches are free but there is no age matching and the
search criteria is fairly simple although keyword searches
are allowed. However, since January 2006 you cannot send
any message without being a Premium member - although you
can reply.
Also offers chat and bulletin board.
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Gayseniors
Gallery
Launched in September 2004, the Gay Seniors Gallery provides
profiles and pictures of bisexual and gay older men. The
design is nice however, the search facility is very limited
offering only text search or by location and the database
is small.
Full membership seems expensive at $39
annually but allows access to more images and additional
photos on profiles plus video chat. The gallery is only
made up of images of members so there is no original content.
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GKiss.com
Nice looking site but mainly aimed at younger men - at
least judging by the images. Difficult to assess how many
contacts there are due to the search system but does have
some older contacts.
However, you can't do
more than a simple search or contact anyone (except to
send them a "wink") without taking out Gold
membership costing between $9.95-$19.95 per month (depending
on membership period). |
HotDogDaddies
For ruggedly good-looking, in-shape man—who like the
attention of other men. Free to post a profile if you upload
pics otherwise subscription is required. Has 311 profiles
(02/2007). Profile is very extensive, if sexually charged.
Also offers T-Shirts and Jewellery. |
| LOVE
OLD 
"A social network for gay older men and the hunks
who love them". Currently free and with 2100 members.
Provides chat, video sharing, forum, groups and more.
LOVE OLD is a social network
for older men and admirers but not an adult network. Pornography
or images of sexual acts, nudity intended to sexually
arouse the viewer and graphic photos or videos are NOT
permitted. Based on the Ning network which means your
ID can be shared with other Ning networks. |
MayDec.com
Dedicated dating site for mature gay men and admirers in
the USA only. Profiles are free to place and are categorized
May (younger) or December (older) although this is a little
arbitrary, as 471 advertisers aged over 50 have put themselves
in the May category - although though some are older seeking
older. As at 02/2007 it has 2500 profiles in the May category
and 2480 profiles in the December category. Ads
include detailed profiling information and photos but
you have to subscribe to the site to contact other users.
The site has email notification
of messages and allows online chat including a favourites
list. Proximity searching. No age matching. |
| NiceDaddies
Dating site with extensive facilites and 15.6K personal
ads (02/2007). Gallieries, video clips, video messages,
IM & chat. Also includes hot or not photo rating,
and public and private photo galleries. Search facilty
(called Browse) allows fairly simple search proximity
to location in USA and travel itineraries. Date matching
rates your match to the advertisers requirements and vice
versa. |
The
Older Gay's Club
New free site (01/2006) offering dating ads with a few new
features such as adding collector swops, for sale/buy items
and gay business address to a profile. New features added
all the time. Also provides chat and a separate gallery. |
| OlderMen
Online
Free dating site with 1800+ profiles, galleries in categories
with ratings, forum, text chat, blogs, desktop messanger
and downloadable video clips. Search (called Browse) is
fairly simple even in advanced (Extended) search mode
with no proximity search or age matching. As it seems
to use an off-the-shelf dating script there are some references
to females too. |
| MyLord
Dating
Germany-based dating site for older men and admirers run
by the propritors of the MyLord bar in Cologne (Koeln)
Germany. Offers browse/search & matching profiles
(but no age-matching) but because it is a modified script,
it isn't very gay-orientated. Has 4600 profiles (02/2007)
around 50% from Germany.
Premium service offers
better search, access to xxx pics, video clips, and video
chat amongst other features. |
| SeniorLover
Multi-lingual (English/Spanish)
nicely designed site with approx 8500 profiles (Feb 2010).
In addition to execellent dating advice, it offers suggestions
for music for older and younger, places to visit, movies
and articles from members. Premium membership offers unlimited
membership, more profile pics, gallery listing, gallery
contacts.
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 Silverdaddies 
The leading dating and galleries site for admirers of mature
gay men.
Currently, the best specialist dating
sites for seniors/admirers with nearly 190,000 profiles
(11/2008) of which 65% are based in the USA and 42% are
aged over 50.
Profiles are free to place include detailed
profiling information and photos. Basic membership only
allows you to send two messages per day. For $10 donation
the Premium Features are enabled for 3 months which remove
the message limit and enable you to see more information
about other users including photo galleries and video
clips. Additional features include separate galleries
of seniors and admirers, videos and live chat.
Age matching was added in 2008, so it's
now even better for older/younger and older/older searches.
Premium Features include the ability to allow only those
who meet your criteria to contact you as well as unlimited
messages, unrestricted webcam chat and ability to view
profile gallieries and videos. Search criteria is extensive
including age, height, weight and location as well as
the availability of a photo, profile text or video clip.
Video chat facility is excellent and very
fast and divided into older/younger and older/older rooms.
Travelers feature enables you to add your details to locations
you are traveling to (for up to a month) and to have your
profile show up in searches in that location.
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SilvermenDating
(April
2008)
A new dating site that is connected with the Silvermen and
Silvermenshop sites. It provides photos, videos, groups,
blogs, forums, chat and for premium memnbers, movies. Standard
members have restricted access to view profiles and to sending
and receiving messages. |
 The
Prime Timer (Nov
2008)
A senior-friendly and extensive dating site and information
resource including travel guide (with content licenced from
GrayGay.com). Features include profile matching and match
emails as well as extensive search including proximity searching.
Also includes a Forum, Video Chat, message templates, hotlists,
event calendar and photo gallery - although the latter is
not fully integrated in the site. |
| XXX-Seniors
Combined Blog
and free Dating
Site "designed from seniors for seniors and their
admirers" The dating service uses an off-the-shelf
script with a little modification so it's still rather
hetero-orientated and the design is not very senior-friendly.
The dating site is rather difficult to find and consequently
there are few contacts yet. |
| Senior Dating Sites |
AgeMatch.com
Bills itself as "the best dating site for inter-generational lovers!" and
is mainly geared towards straight
advertisers but also has a large number of gay/bi profiles too (exact
numbers are difficult to gauge due to the search options).
Does not allow overtly sexual content and age matching is included
as standard.
Adding a profile and searching is free but you can only search by age
range unless you take out Gold Membership (from $19.95/month) which
gives advanced searching and allows you to email advertisers and send
instant messages.
This site also appears to be one of those which generates enticement
messages to non-subscribers. Check any messages to make sure they are
relevant to your profile before you join to reply.
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 Seniorfriendfinder
Has over 40,000 members and includes
gay seniors.
Probably the best
bet for mature men looking for mature partners.
Part of the Adultfriendfinder
group their membership structure is similar
to Outpersonals with standard, silver and gold
tiers.
Free Membership
allows you to post a profile but you can only
respond to advertisers more than once every
24hrs if you take out a membership.
Silver membership
allows you to view photos, send unlimited emails
and gives enhanced searching facilities.
Gold provides
premium listing of your ad, filtered email,
priority ad listings and top search facilities.
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| Couples |
| In addition to the specialist
site below, some of the dating sites allow linked profiles for couples
including Gaydar and Gay.com |
MeetGayCouples.com
Dating site for couples
to meet others for social as well as intimate encounters. |
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